It happens to us all. You’re trying to work from home, or hold a phone conversation, or start dinner.. it’s always when you’re busy that your kids need you the most it seems. It’s like they have an inner radar that says “mom is busy, let’s go bug her!” This is when our patience is tested the most. It’s easy to get agitated and yell, “CAN’T YOU SEE I’M BUSY!!” But instead of blowing up on your kids, leaving both you and them feeling bad, here are some better ideas that will only take a minute but keep everyone happy!!
Solution #1: Grab your child and give them a long hug! As long as you can.. and when they try to get away hug harder and say, “I just love hugging you!”
They’ll eventually get tired of this and want to leave. Then you get to go back to what you were doing!
If they are persistent, keep going…
Solution #2: “I’m not going to let you go” game. Hold them in your arms and slather on the hugs, kisses, snuggles, and tickles while saying.. “you can’t get away.. I have to kiss you.. you’re fast but I’ll catch you… I love you so much, I’ll never let you go!”
This is my child’s favorite game!! Even when I’m just hugging him regularly he’ll whisper “are you going to let me go?” He loves me saying how much I love holding him and need him! After chasing him around and being overly loving for only a few mins, they are done demanding your attention since that emotional connection was filled. Both walk away feeling happy and getting what they want!
Hope this helps! If all else fails, take a deep breath and put things in perspective. If neither of these are enough, clearly your child really needs you and maybe the other stuff can wait. Try spending more time with your child on a daily basis, snuggling, tickling, and laughing with them. Feel that emotional connection and the neediness will fade.